Happy 20 freakin’ 18, people!
With the festive season over, we’ve entered another year. A year which I hope brings you all kindness, happiness and love by the shedload. After a little break over Christmas, from the blog and uni work, I’m feeling refreshed and ready to kick-start the new year. A wee update as to how things are going to work over here on the blog: my aim is to get two posts out a week for you, now on Tuesdays and Thursdays. This works out nicely with my uni timetable (ew), making sure I have time to get my blog posts lookin’ and readin’ how I want them. When I’m particularly busy with university work (as I am in the next three weeks- deadlines are slappin’ me round the face at the mo) I’m going to limit myself to one blog post a week- and I hope that’s okay for you all. Sadly, university work has to take priority, as much as I wish it didn’t.
This post features me in my pj’s, seeing in the New Year with my boyfriend in London. I am so very excited for the year ahead, and today I wanted to chat about something important to this time of year.
It’s no secret that many of us hate New Year’s Eve, with a passion- mainly because that’s the only passion we’ll be feeling when the clock strikes midnight. The image of the perfect New Year’s: a midnight kiss, the perfect dress at the perfect party, never seems to quite work out- and we’re not happy bunnies about this, at all. Society puts a lot of pressure on having the most fun possible during the New Year celebrations, and a lot of us are so over it. With the rightful shunning of NYE’s perfect pedestal in mind, why the heck do we continue to obsessively make New Year’s resolutions?
It happens every year. 31st December rolls around, we’re fuelled with a fresh sense of hope for the year ahead and we decide it’s time to make some big changes in our lives. ‘Must do Dry January’, ‘find the love of my life this year’, ‘actually get money’s worth of overpriced gym membership’ gets scrawled into our diaries; a so-called list for improvement for the year ahead. We might keep it up for a week or two, heck, we might even manage dry Jan (minus a tipple or two), but when we fall at the first hurdle a few weeks later, we’re filled with guilt. ‘I didn’t manage to go to the gym three times a week like I wanted, so I may as well just stop going altogether’; ‘I’ll change next year lol’. We’ve seen through New Year’s Eve’s high expectation B.S., so why can’t we see past these convoluted resolutions we make for ourselves?
Let your New Year’s resolution be to make no resolutions, this year. If you’ve ever made a resolution and stuck to it, then I applaud you, but generally the rule is this: if you make a resolution, it’s probably going to be something ridiculously idealistic and difficult to follow, and you’re never going to follow it through. It’s as simple as that.
It’s about time we started thinking about everything we’re already doing right, instead of obsessing over everything that apparently needs to drastically change. If we focus on all the brill things we’re already doing, we can enter the new year with happiness that we’re doing everything we can to be the best people we can be, and with a sense of optimism for the year ahead, that will last year round (instead of quickly slipping away as January slowly lugs away and strips us of any positivity).
So with that, I want to chat today about a few things I want to keep up this year. Things that I think I’m already doing sufficiently, things I’m proud of and things that you too are already doing fabulously. Let’s start the year with some positivity, pals!
Spreading as much kindness and love as possible
In a world where often devastating things happen, we need to each remember to spread as much love and kindness as possible. Although the world can be a truly shitty place, I inherently believe that there is more good than bad, and that we can eradicate the bad if we try our utmost to continually spread love and kindness. We can make the world a happy place if enough of us strive to make it that way. Since I lost my Dad in 2016, I’ve known the meaning of letting people know how much they mean to you. You never know in life what is around that corner, so it’s best to make the most of it whilst we can, and make sure those around us know how much they are truly cherished. Yes, I’m that annoying girlfriend that tells you she loves you 24 freakin’ 7, but I need those that matter to me to know how much they do. This is something that I know I’ve kept at throughout 2017, and I’m going to do everything I can to be a positive influence on those around me throughout 2018, and for the rest of my life. Just be nice ppl- it’s the best thing anyone can be.
Working incredibly hard towards goals
I am a very, very firm believer that almost anything is possible if we put our minds to it. If you want something enough, and you put an incredible amount of hard work in, then you’ll get there. During 2017, I knew more than ever that I want my career to involve writing. Whether that be through some form of journalism, blogging or another outlet, this is what I primarily want to do with my life. I did anything and everything I could do during the year to hone my experience and add relevant skills to my CV. I became an editor for my university newspaper, wrote for various publications, interned at Heat magazine in London, secured a paid internship for the new year, got this blog up and running professionally and got experience in broadcast journalism. I have so much love for blogging- I love having a space where I can write what I want to see on the internet, and curating blog posts and putting together ideas for shoots is just the best. I’m constantly striving to be the best that I can be, and I think we owe it to ourselves to go out there and get what we want. No dream is too small and it’s good to have dreams. Having something to strive for brings purpose to life- and hard work makes me incredibly happy!
Making happy memories that are impossible to forget
2017 was a year of travel for me. I stopped worrying about money and embraced the fact that whilst I’m young and can afford to do so, I should bladdy well get on me holibobs, as much as possible. I love exploring new places; it brings me so much happiness. I really want to explore as much of the world as I can. This last year, I visited Lanzarote, Mallorca and Paris, as well as some beaut places in the UK such as London, Cornwall, Bristol and Bath. The snow in December ruined yet another of my holiday plans (to go to Amsterdam, wahhh) but I’m sure I’ll manage to get over there some time this year. Paris was maybe the happiest I have ever ever been. I got to explore a city I have wanted to visit ever since I was a little girl, with my boyfriend, and I fell in love (with my boyfriend, even more) but also with the city. I am very much a home bird, so it was a surprise to have found myself wishing to live in Paris. Having a home in Paris, whether that be a holiday home or permanently living there, is a mahoosive goal of mine. I’ve never loved a place so much. I’ve met some bladdy amazing people this last year and have created memories that are impossible to forget – and that is something that I wish to do throughout 2018, and to continue throughout my life.
I feel very very blessed for everything that I’ve achieved and experienced throughout 2017. It’s been the most amazing year of my life, achievements wise. I’ve struggled a lot at times over the year, missing my Dad and dealing with personal stresses, but it’s been one incredible learning curve. I feel like I have a v controversial opinion here, but I genuinely prefer New Year’s to Christmas. There’s something magical about the feeling we all get as the clock is about to strike midnight: a sense of excitement for what’s ahead of us. New Year’s is a celebration of human life, a celebration for what’s to come and a celebration of everything we’ve survived. And if that’s not magical, I don’t know what is.
I spent this New Year’s Eve in London with my boyfriend- and it was absolutely magical in itself. We sipped prosecco from plastic cups and watched the London skyline light up from our hotel window. It was beautiful and epitomises what I want from the year ahead: more time with those special people who are oh so dear to me, and more time to just relax, just be and live in the moment. And I’m going to end this post on (surprisingly) some wee resolutions. However, these resolutions are things I pledge to alter in 2018, because they’re things that will be hugely beneficial for my wellbeing and happiness. I’ve acknowledged I’m doing just fine as it is, and if I slip up and don’t stick to these, that’s A-Okay. But, after years of resolutions being a no-go for me, I think I’m ready to take a couple on. So here they are:
To take more time for me
With university work, work experience, my wee blog, and keeping up with family and friends, in 2017 I neglected myself. I didn’t relax enough, I didn’t take time out for me, and I let stresses overwhelm me. This year, I vow to take time out. Whether that be binging on a Netflix show (which I never do, how ridiculous is that?) to having a pamper sesh on a Sunday eve, I’m going to chill. And if that means sometimes I’m a lil bit lax on my blog, or I don’t do any uni work one evening, so bladdy be it. We all deserve a rest. It’s good for us.
To understand I can’t control anyone else’s actions
I very much let other people’s moods affect me. If someone I love is having a bad day, I’m automatically having a bad day with them. I need to learn to remember that I can try my best to cheer someone up or help them through a dilemma, but I can’t take all the weight of the world on my shoulders. Sometimes we have to be a little selfish to preserve our own wellbeing, and that’s okay. I’m slowly starting to realise that.
To lighten my life with some more positivity
We all have, and I have had, a tough past couple years. They’ve been incredibly happy, yet also incredibly sad. And this sadness will continue to affect me, throughout my life. But I can’t let it win me over. And neither can you. Over the last year, I’d often write a positive blog post to try to make light of something that was upsetting me, and to offer advice out to people who were struggling. Only problem is, I couldn’t listen to my own bladdy advice. And 2018 is the year for changing that! For every negative thought I have, I’m going to think of something positive to counteract that. I’m also going to write down three things I’m grateful for, every single day. Life is for being happy!
I hope you all had some fabulous New Year’s celebrations over the last couple days, and that 2018 will bring you everything you’re hoping for. Lots of love, Maddie xxxx